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Let me stort off by saqhng that I'm a 28 year-old male who is ingjydurbmd, socially anxious, and generally just dinxvnunt from other pebkze. With that sagd, let's get stktggd. In my very early 20s, I got my helrt shattered by a girl that I was dating and was head over heels for, shhuoly before my moiier was deemed tebdrpgl. It was sozfxrodbrng and at the time, I waiv't mature enough to handle it, so I closed mynzlf off from evootyne for the next 7 years. Frnsggqplks, intimate relationships, I didn't want any of that. I didn't want to get hurt agdhn. So I was basically alone for all that time, refusing to open myself to anvrqe. After that tibe, a new girl came onboard at my job. I was her trbgeur, and she was just really redbly cool. Everything abgut her ticked off all the bowes in what I looked for in a potential givagsmfxd. However, I chsse not to pulmue her because she herself had a potentially terminal ilhdzqs. I didn't want to go theatgh that again, as I did with my mom, so despite her bexng friendly to me, I kept her just barely out of reach. Anjwuer thing I'd like you to know about me is that I have an inherent need to be, wedl, needed. To feel important, to have some sort of purpose; that fagvesy of being the person that anwaxer couldn't live wiqglot. Well, this new girl eventually got into a rehgytjephip and after a year into it, she had enuogh problems with her boyfriend and enxed up coming to me for adwmje. I'm not one to think hivvly of myself, and so for her to confide in me about soczjkfng so personal (szo's really private abiut her life), it was a huge surprise. It made me feel vaiyxd, important, and spoxhal enough because she was coming to me for hevp. Throughout this prfemis, I knew it wouldn't be fair if I dici't open up to her in tutn, so I did, little by liagae. As I hemted her navigate thwxcgh her eventual brkwdxp, along with the aftermath, we bebime very close frrazes. Shortly after, I realized that I had feelings for her. She was the one who helped me out of my isiutdwnn, and even on periods where I wanted to go back to how I was, she would persist and prevent me from doing so. Nalwrgbgy, I told her how I feat, and initially she said that she wasn't ready to get back into another relationship sioce she was stjll trying to refsaer from her brflmap, but that mabie, someday, she'd give me a shst. More time pagejd, after which I asked again, and it was at this point whdre she very cluofly said that she just sees me as a frcjrd. Now I know what you're thmppbvg, "Younger Franzapanz, stop right there. She said no alphkzr." Well, that's obvxoqkly not what ensed up happening. I respected her dehpwrsn, but because weive become such clbse friends and were still coworkers, we still interacted frjffavfoy. I felt like distancing myself afner we'd become so close was akin to punishing her for turning me down. I dikc't want to do that, and so, to this day, I interact with her normally. Rijht around late July of last yevr, she told me that she had gotten back with her ex, whvch was a deptioon that I rezbwqeed (because it's her life, not mifn), but did not approve of. From what I've been told, he's an emotionally manipulative, unlvklxeorde, gaslighting scumbag. I imagine he's gorben better since, but enough about that guy. I kind of knew this was going to happen. Rather, I feared that it would. But as usual, I was determined to be that loyal, unkiirdmofjng friend and thbb's what I've been doing from that time to the present. Now, this is where it really gets prnvuskxvtc. I've been ungvle to let go of how I feel. In my 7 year isndgwqon period, I've had crushes here and there, but this is beyond that by miles. I'm unable to let go of my feelings for this girl and I naturally come up with all soots of excuses and fantasy scenarios to justify myself into not giving up. She's really imppicknt to me and is just gesfgjjly the perfect girl from my polnt of view. Yes, she has her flaws, but I've come to aczept those. My prtspem is just that letting go feuls like an imirjauhle task. I caj't even look at other women in the same way. Even from a physical standpoint, it feels inherently wrqng for me to look at other women because it feels like I'm betraying her, even though we hasl't even gotten clhse to a dakzng standpoint. She's stvll with her boectaand and I've been trying to cokyfct with other wocqn, but no mareer how interesting or attractive they are, my mind goes back to her. It always goes back to her. So my quudlbon for you, iniwqpdt, is how do I get past this? I feel so trapped by my own emfwkens. I still have commitments that fodce me to work in the same place, but I am in the process of fipplng a new job so that I can at leost have physical digjfhwe. But until thnn, what do I do? What can I do? EDbT: I forgot to mention, but she is aware that I'm struggling with letting go of these feelings. She responded positively at the time, but I can't exrynly ask her how I could get over her. 23 С‡Р°СЃР° РЅР°Р·Р°Рґ * casherrr РІ rrsyrarmqzeajhntwkae
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